posted 01-26- 08:39 PM               

I hope something interesting happens somewhere soon that really catches my attention because this is begining to suck!

posted 01-26- 11:55 PM               

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Originally posted by ArgonV:

I am currently talking to a few...

Every girl I talk to I end up becomming their best friend instead of boy friend...

EVERY girl I talk too...

After not talking to her for 2 months All me and her did was talk tho...

And yes I have many friends and I do talk to them and do stuff with them. But that gets repeditive after a while

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Maybe that's your problem. All you do is talk.

posted 01-27- 01:48 AM            

The best advice I give you is to get out there. Girls really want to be aproached and pursued.
You have to make clear up front what you are looking for without being pushy.

Don't worry about impressing them with stunts or money. Just be honest (always!) and they will pick up on it.

One thing that is very very important is to make eye contact often and don't turn away or act shy if it can be hepled. You will see what I mean.

But most important is to just get out there.

Good luck!

posted 01-27- 02:06 AM               

There are a lot of cool books around, you just have to take the time to find one! And I know when you're in school its hard to believe, but a lot of those "classics" that your English teacher tries to make you read are actually REALLY good. They aren't just being taught for the hell of it. Try Catcher in the Rye if you haven't read it yet, The Great Gatsby, or Catch-22 for some decent semi-modern stuff.

Or, you could just go up on the roof and smoke weed until you fall off or burn your house down! Hey, at least it would make an interesting story when you're telling your kids what you did when you were young :-)

posted 01-27- 03:06 AM               

Ruck n roll baby

"one lady at the bar asked me"" if my legs were posts how how would u convert the goal?" Id bow my head in shame and say" im sorry, i cant kick""

posted 01-27- 06:19 AM               

If your not into doing much with girls right now then I suggest a good book too.

Robert Heinlein Rocks. Moon is a harse mistress Is one of my favorites.

I actually have too many books lately got about 10 lined up to read. I keep buying them faster then I can read them.

Need to build a new bookcase. This one is packed 2 and 3 deep on the shelves.

posted 01-27- 11:12 AM               

I like historical war books. Some good sci-fi too. And Ive read the Great Gatsby. It was good.

LoL smoketrail! And as for smoking weed on my roof... Well my roof is too steep and I would just slide right down. (Its a LONG ways down from my roof. I live in a 3 story house...)

posted 01-27- 11:50 AM               

There's also probably a Dungeons and Dragons enclave somewhere near, or maybe a Battletech Leauge.

I hate to say this to you chum, but unfortunately, the feeling your having now is simply the beginning.

I'm 41 tomorrow, and I can tell you the soul-searching never stops.

Be glad you're one of the ones intelligent enough to actually HAVE thoughts like that. Many don't. They spend the time they should be spending soul-searching memorizing scripts from "Friends."

And listen to Maaco. What she said is really true.

Act just a teensy bit aloof, but not fake. Don't act like you're going to go home and hang yourself if she doesn't want to dance. Then she'll want to dance. Trust her. She's right.

And, you'll find that looking women straight in the eye not only impresses them, it let's you see if they're laughing at you or not! Plus, you usually get to see some REAL pretty eyes.

So buck up, buck-o. Soul-searching and that "drifting" feeling are all a part of life. The ex-girlfriend thing makes perfect sense too. She obviously had some things to talk about, and didn't feel comfortable talking about them to "Mr. New."

It's okay to be friends with a past flame. Most of the time it really means you two liked each other.

Well, off to work, and driving around in my car listening to the Foo Fighters, contemplating the meaning of existence...

posted 01-27- 12:17 PM               

ROTFLOL!!! I have some students like that Makes chemistry really interesting...you always gotta wonder what potions are being made up in the fume hood

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posted 01-27- 12:57 PM               

BTW I know a few "Goth" people and they are more intouch with their spiritual sides and the meaning of life more so than the average "Prep" (I know quite a few "Preps" too) They also seem to see the "big picture" and clue in rather than listening to boy bands, wondering what they are going to wear tomorrow, wathcing Friends and having "get wasted" parties on Saturday night. Of course there are some Goths that are rebelling, dressing abnormal just because of a crappy home life or "nobody likes them or understands them". But lets not get into that conversation...

posted 01-27- 02:49 PM            

Rgr on the girl bit too, I don't know how many times I end up as the 'confidant' either. My latest shot-down experience was quite the deal. There was this smart, witty and damn good looking girl in my bio lab, and during the whole term we kinda flirted a bit (it's hard to in an 8am Microbiology lab, but hey, it works), so on the last day of lecture she comes and sits down beside me. In a room for 400. At the end of lecture I ask for her number, and before I finish asking she's writing on the corner of my lecture notes. Well we're talking a day or two later, and I discover that not only does she have a boyfriend, but shes does some modelling on the side for a group in town (small stuff, but still). Sigh. We aren't in any lectures or labs together this term, but whenever we pass each other in the hall there's a momentary flicker that passes between us. Little more than a tease I guess.

Whoever said University is a utopia of cheap beer and single girls ought to be flogged. The beer's b****y expensive and what girls aren't already going out with guys just aren't interested...

Werner

P.S. Argon, drop me an email and I'll give you my icq#.

P.P.S. Smashing Pumpkins (Adore & Siamese Dream) & Radiohead (Not KidA, the first two albums) -> Some good 'think mood' music to add to your collection if you don't have it already.

posted 01-27- 07:52 PM               

As for ICQ, well I dont have it! I use AOL instant messager. And Smashing Pumpkins is a damned good band! I cant believe I didnt mention them.

On a lighter note I did go out today. I went to the mall and just strutted around with a friend. It was a lovely day outside today and while in my car I enjoyed the senery. The clouds looked very awe inspiring. Then I took a walk around my neighborhood and the near by golf course. Its amazing how much you dont notice on a day-to-day basis.

posted 01-28- 05:16 AM               

When you are with one of these "friend" type girls, have you ever tried to make a move on them, or told them you want to be more than friends?

For me I've found that if I like someone (speaking about my single days of course) either myself or them would let the other know that yes, I think you are sexy/hot or whatever, and that would just lead to more romantic things naturally. Maybe you are just trying to hard. I'd say just be yourself, don't use the macho/tough guy act, unless maybe the girl is on a Harley, and just relax. Being over anxious shows and most likely you'll end up tripping over yourself and your words.

Bottom line, be yourself, have fun, and don't act as though this girl is the be all/end all thing in your life. If you approach them with the attitude that you don't need them and can do without them if they reject you, it's no loss or skin off your nose and you'll be that much more confident in their eyes.

In meeting my wife, one look at her and my heart lept into my throat. I thought she was so gorgeous and MUST be dating and or married to some guy. It turns out she was seeing a Marine. Although I had an advantage over him. I'm a pretty nice guy and he was not. He treated her like crap and was very self centered. She met me, I gave her my number and said if you'd ever like to go out please call. She did the next morning and the rest is history

So nice guys don't finish last afterall. Seriously though, she was the prettiest girl I'd ever seen and I thought my chances to date her were about zero. It turns out she liked me as much as I liked her. And 4 months later we married and now 8 years later we're about to have a new baby girl (March 12th) to go with our 5 year old son, and are as happy as ever.

So you never know. Good luck!

posted 01-28- 11:29 AM               

Thanks for the advice bud. But now this post is about girl relation ships instead the meaning or search for life.

posted 01-28- 01:01 PM               

ArgonV
Man do I understand your frustration with boredom. At least I think I do, if its like mine. If so, the boredom runs deep. It's a distaste for the sameness of all your old distractions. A loss of luster in all that once caught your fancy. A malaise that drives you to a point where you loose all desire to fight it and sleep overtakes you.

If this condition gets worse, or gets to the point that it is constant and daily, you might consider seeing a Dr. about depression or anxiety. Otherwise, what you are going through is something I think we all go through from time to time. I tend to think it's in these phases that we are actually sorting through our lives, what we think of it, and how we want it to be. The desire to be entertained is actually a desire to be distracted from the brooding thoughts on existence.

Whenever I get close to that point now, I set out on a personal quest to attack the problem early. I stop first to figure out what causes me to feel discontent. For me now, it's just my job, everything else in life is grand. At another time in my life it was for lots of things, career choices, school, girls, money, friends, etc. When I get a handle on what I'm unhappy about I set a mind to what would fix it. A quick list, but it has to be a list, otherwise you might stop short by simply saying it's impossible. After I create this list, I make an outline battle plan for how to make the options come true. Then I seek distraction as a reward for my new plan. The best distraction is companionship. So I try to hook up with friends or family (most often my wife, now that I'm married).

In time your list of frustrations will shrink. I can remember when the only thing I liked about my life was Taco Bell and one friend. Now, I have most of my life in order, if I could just find a satisfying employer. Of course, once you fix all that bugged you in the past, new things will bug you, but that's a different story.

I try to remember these phrases when I get into this kind of funk:

"It shall come to pass"
The serenity Prayer
And all the songs dealing with the phrase or concept of "...pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again."

Now, if this runs true to course, I wrote all of this, and completely missed the mark.